Blessings of Love

IN DEDICATIONS TO: 

There is like no other the love of your child- My daughter is the one truest of all that gets me to strive for the best possible life that we deserve.  All my immediate family for never leaving my side, for walking with me through my hardest of hours of grieving.  My cousin Ashley Bazala because she has always been there for me.  It’s through each other that we have been conquering the world.  My BESTIE Krys Hampton Lovitt for seeing me through all my toughest of moments.  Mike Tremblay for being my best fan and manager: P. OWNCANADA-OWNTV for their hard work and joy they bring me every day.  OPRAH for all her truly inspirational shows as well as the beautiful, glorious people I met because of her.  OWNViewers, Nada0971, PRanganathan, Mistygirl77, Mybestlifecoach, GrowingOWN, CDNOWNViewers, OnMyOWNworld, SpontaneSmiley.  Tiffanie Davis Henry, for all her words of wisdom and retweets.  These people could not have come into my life at a better time than now.  ALL my online friends from around the world, you know who you are.  Most of all each and every one of you grieving it’s because of you I am here.  The love of all these people have gave me my hope, strength, smile, everything back to me.  Love can truly conquer all, it’s not just a saying it is a part of life.  To give love is to get love.  When you’re surrounded by light it is then you start to see the light.  I have been blessed through my darkness and pain by people who continue to show me unconditional love.

On this road of grieving we travel through we need to accept the blessings that are all around us for us, it’s as though it’s a kiss to our hearts, to our souls.  If we rise above the pain to notice everything around us, the journey becomes less dark around us.  Discovering the blessings of others who are there to really truly help us in our time of grieving helps us tremendously in our grieving process.  It’s as though our lives were touched by true genuine people for a reason, true gift to us, to lighten our days, to lighten our souls.  I can not specify enough to you all how true of a meaning it is to allow yourself to see all the love of people who want to be around you.  No matter how hard, how bad you feel, let yourself be like a sponge, suck in all the love others offer to you.  Family, friends, friends online, they are there for a reason, they are there to lift you up above the darkness that surrounds you.  It is the love, the true love of others that put the light in the darkness for you to see.  So on your worst of days reach out to the ones that show they are truly there for you.  Even on days you feel to just be alone, push that thought away to embrace them, even if it is for them to listen, or just sit with you.  The truest of people will stay with you; they will walk the journey of grieving with you by your side. 

Family, friends, even people online are heaven sent, a true gift in disguise to our grieving souls.  As I take baby steps through my grieving, I truly started realizing things, seeing the blessings that are given to us if we walk with our eyes open.  Don’t let the pain take you over, your loved ones passed want you to live your life, live it as if you’re doing it for their love, that you’re going to make them proud so they to where ever they may be can smile, so they too can be at ease knowing you will get by, that you will in time gather you’re strength.  When you’re so over whelmed by pain it shuts you off to so many things, you miss the blessings sent to you, and you miss the love that your loved ones passed are trying to send your way.  You miss their messages, signs, their love that they try to get through to you, to your hearts.  There are really wonderful God sent people around you to reach out to.  True genuine love is what captures your heart while grieving; it opens you up to see you do have the strength to get by.  On days you feel that strength is missing, loved ones will give it back to you, and they will carry you through the days you feel you have nothing left. 

I am truly amazed to of been touched by all the beautiful people that have showed up through this road of grieving I’m travelling.  In all of this what I say to you all is let the light in, allow yourself to be reached, allow yourselves to be touched by the love that is waiting there for you.  You are not in this grieving process to be alone; you just have to be open to embrace the love.  I honestly can say that these people are put in our lives for a reason, as if it’s a gift of a miracle to us from up above knowing just how painful it is to us.  So to you all reading this open your hearts open your eyes, fight for it no matter how hard.  Once you do you will see how glorious it is, how you will start to feel your heart healing.  Little by little, one love by one love you will get your strength back, your darkness will lighten up more and more each day so that the light shines through.  The darkness that once was will start looking as though it’s a shade lighter.  Your hopes will to touch you, it will invade your thoughts, the next thing you know the hope you once lost has come back.  .  I want to give you all my love so that you as well can get all your hopes as well as dreams back.  To reach out to every grieving heart is my calling, I will continue to do this each and every day that I can.

Note to you all:  To not feel the pain does not mean you love your loved ones passed any less.  To rise above the pain shows them you loved them with all that you had, that even now you love them with everything you have.  Like the feeling of butterflies in your stomach, capture that feeling again, hold on to it, and let that feeling conquer the bad feeling, the scared, empty feeling.