Are you the real you?



 

Remembering me as a little girl I remember how everything I looked to was so full of life, the color of the world was bright, and worries were nowhere to be found.  Growing each year I noticed the way of thinking in my mind changed as each year went by.  The beauty of the wind through my hair, the bright vivid colors of the world, the grass that moved with the wind, the laughter at almost anything that came to my attention, all things I seen as a little girl grew becoming more and more invisible as the day I was so very young.  Not really noticing the beauty of it all fading,  I grew taking on life’s lessons to my life not ever taking a second guess those things I once looked to were taking on new perceptions due to what others sculpted me to believe.  Opinions of others took place of what it was I thought of how things should be.  Soon enough looking back there was me sculpted into someone that believed so much in all opinions of others of how I was, it was not how I felt of me , it was how others seen me as.

Being a little girl growing without the love of her father carried a deep burden on my shoulders creating a force field of all positive away from me.  The perceptions, comments, thoughts of others was how I seen how I would be, how I was.  I started to grow yet myself perception was not as it should be, it was not perceived by me; it was by what I had learned from negative thoughts of others.  The scar of being a fatherless daughter went deeper than the heart.  All of my uniqueness, my confidence, self-esteem was not something that grew with me as I got older.  It is so easy to listen to the words so loud all around you if you allow yourself to hear it for so long.  I grew into a lady shy to stand up for what she believed in, shy to speak words to anyone at all, caring too much what others would say if did.  I believe so many people allow letting go of their true selves because the loudness of voices of others all around them, they allow that to become who they are rather than listen to their own mind, their own heart, their own soul.  So many people walk unknown in their life thinking they truly know who they are when all reality it is not them, it is others that have programmed them to feel the way they do. 

I look back to the old me to see how happy she is to see that finally I have embraced my own self, my own life, my own love.  Not so many are lucky enough to catch this as they grow In the life they live, these people are the ones that are quick to lash out to those who do know who they are, that do believe in themselves and dreams they bare to grow.  It is in those people that find it hard to see others light shine so bright that can create such a hate in this world due to not letting go of the perceptions of others that created who they are to start understanding for themselves who they are for themselves, to understand who they are on their own.  Who we are is not what others tell us we are, we are the ones that decide who we are, we are responsible for growing into life as how we see it, how we feel it, how are heart is whispering to us to let us know who we are.

 

While we live our life is so important to embrace the lessons shown to us as we go step by step through the days of life we live, yet what lessons are truly being embraced if the person you are is not who you should be?, what are we learning if we take those lessons perceived of how others programmed our mind?, we do not learn what our heart and soul need to be to be the unique person we are on this earth to be.  It’s not about what happened to you, it’s not about what you went through, it about knows in your heart how it was truly how you made it through all you did by being your true self, not by what others created you to be.  If it took me 35 years to find out, to reprogram those voices to hear my own, what if others don’t realise at all?  Once you start it is as though being born again, growing again, seeing life through your own eyes, finding your wholeness, it is as though life has opened to be seen as a whole new brighter different world then you see so long ago through the eyes of how others made you see it.  It is not easy, yet growing to be the true you is work, hard work that is never over.  That to me also reminds me that it is possible so many let themselves be controlled by others due to being your own authentic self is hard work that goes on each and every day you wake.  Is that why we allow ourselves to let go to be someone else?  Hard work scares our inner strength?  I take notice in so many of things that it takes my breath away when I remember the day my heart had open, the day I found the true me and chose to continue to find that true me. 

We all are here to be different, instilled in us is a purpose, those that believe who they are by others will never find that unique purpose they were brought to this world to do, it’s upsetting in a way because each our purpose is what helps the world grow to be the strongest, loving, brightest it can be.  Those that perceive who they are by what they went through, hard times to deal with, pain that they get stuck in are those that need to be freed of the perception they are not who their stories are.  People stuck in their stories need to find who they feel they are and let go to what others tell them they are or should do.  The validations of others are not where you are, it is not what you need to become who you really are.   The validation of your own you is what need to be heard.  Look at the people around you; are they the ones that grew in your life?  NO it is you that grew in your life.  Most may feel it’s scary to be who they are due to judgement of others, that was my problem to that I say it is not their dreams you are trying to conquer, it is not them who try to be you, the uniqueness of you opens doors to the real you, it opens the doors special designed for your soul. 

How does our soul ever grow if we hold on to things that aren’t really who the true person we need to be is?  It is after all our soul that needs to bring in all lessons to our truly divine self in order to fully grow and become who it is you always dreamed to be.  It’s hard work yes, but to see yourself smile, believing in the real true you is a little miracle all on its own.  In the hard work lays magic each true step you walk through life.  That means bearing all the pains in the world that come your way, it is in seeing the real you the strength to make it through to see the blessings to your life, to keep seeing life in vivid color, open heart, full of love is how you turn the pain around to see the magic that is.  Like I mention to those that grieve is the same to anyone there is two places you hold things, your mind, your heart, it is within your heart you will change the place in your mind on who you really truly are, it is in your heart you change the perception of how others made you become who they wanted you to be. 

  

 

The saying “why would you want to blend in, when you should stand out” is a saying that should speak to everyone’s heart, we are all here to stand out, it is in the standing out you help others understand that they too are here to be unique, to live life using what it is they have in them to reach out into this world to touch hearts of so many that are lost, that blend in.  It is up to us to be our authentic self to make this world a place of unconditional love, a place where judgement is nothing but a word, a word with no meaning, no value.   What is it you feel, see, hear, smell all around you, if it is nothing that touches you in some way then that is when you know your true self is being held hostage to what others made you believe who you are. 

If you feel things that you come across and feel in your heart meanings to certain things you see, feel, smell, hear than you truly understand the lessons that have been given to you have been given to the true inner you.  To hear the birds and smile, to feel a special feeling to a song that brings back memories of a special moment, to smell the flowers to smile knowing life is growing all around you, to see the uniqueness in the world all-around you is when you know your heart is authentically your own, to understand that in that area is where magic happens, where miracles unfold.  To hold on to the scars that linger deeply inside you is to stay stuck in the life where you need to be growing, being proud to show the world those scars of beauty is to truly let go to continue finding bits and pieces of the true you.   It is so very hard to carry the burden of some of life’s painful lessons yet it’s even more wondrous to let go to find the beauty of you growing in the direction you always wanted to be.  Once you learn to let grow, accept, move forward you start to see the bliss of how your life was always meant to be, it has always been there but you just had to let go, feel your heart, let the voices of others in your mind go.  Pain is crippling to our heart, mind, body, soul yet to feel that pain to turn into positive is really where the lessons start to talk to your soul. 

Don’t let the perception of who others set you to be keep you from owning the truth of you, the real you, the unique, different you.   Everyone put here on this earth is to be different, yet to others being different is something that is scary, it’s looked at as to be odd, not right when in all actuality they too are different yet just haven’t seen it yet.  Growing to become the real you is a blessing given to you the day you were born, to use your uniqueness to help out everyone in this world.  I am happy to say that after 35 years I am happy to do the hard work, the day I truly opened my eyes I could not go through life fast enough to embrace the magic all around me.  I look back to the little girl who was really herself to smile knowing she is back where she should be.   Losing my husband was how I found out who the real true me was, losing him opened me up to find the real purpose of my life, pain is not pain, pain will set you free.

 

When you look to another to find yourself thinking “weird”, erase that thought to understand no not weird it is them being the unique person they were gifted with.   It is really what we all are gifted with but some of us choose to blend in order to not be judged or looked at to be different, like an outcast.  Take that child in you to hold on to it through the life as you grow, it’s in your inner child is where the true you lays, where your pure of love lingers, where your true purpose lives.  Breaking the mold is what it is all about, I’d rather break the mold any day than be branded as a twin to something the same.  It is never too late to wake up to find the real you, I just hope many will notice it and break the mould that others made them to be.

 

Remember the two places of sacredness your heart, your mind, in those two places is where we can change the ways of our thinking.  In your heart will always lay the authentic you trying to break free, allow your mind to hear those words speaking from your heart.  I know I am different, I know what it is my heart loves is different, that others will never understand why it is I do what I do but I also know it is ok due to the fact that it is the realness of the purpose that I was blessed with.  Grieving is tough for those to engage I get that, but not ever will I let others make me shy from what it is that is the real of myself, I’d rather touch the millions of hearts that grieve then let others mould me into what it is they think I should be doing or be.  What’s your hearts love telling you to do?  Do not ignore it to embrace it, do not ignore it because you may feel others will not agree it is right, our purposes have no right no wrong our purpose is a gift gifted specifically to us to reach out into the world to use.

Embracing your purpose branches out to oh so many other purposes that you could never think possible.  Don’t be trapped by the thoughts of others because what is ahead for you is so much more.  Find the uniqueness in you to let it shine bright out to the world, it is in that brightness others will no longer be afraid and let their own shine bright with yours.  Letting go of the perception of who you should be allows others to set themselves free as well.  “We are not our stories”, “we are not our past”, we are not limited in time to reach our dreams, dreams have no age, it is never too late to be YOU and the real true you.  Look deep into your pain to find the light that is trying to shine onto you.

 

NOTE TO ALL:  Don't sacrifice the real you for anyone because the gifts that lay in your future are to be forgotten, invisible to the eye.   The magic happens where the real true you takes action in knowing that yes, that is really truly you.  Being you allows lives to be saved, it allows others to understand it is ok to be who they are.  Find your bright light in the pain you bare.

 

 



 

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Letter From a Twenty-two Year Old

Letter from a 22 Year Old

 

My Handsome Froggy

 

My Life changed the day I looked into your eyes, that was the day I found out that dreams were actually real, that they do come true.  I thought my life was cursed when it came to relationships but you proved that was wrong the day you touched my heart.

 

I know you feel how much I am grateful for you, if you feel the love as I do.  I close my eyes at night knowing when I wake up it is you that I will see.  If anyone else, I would never want to wake up.  My heart, my soul, my spirit, all spell out your name and long for your gentle touch. 

 

I just can’t believe my heart can love as much as it does for you.  Without you my heart cannot function.  My heart could never love another in life; it only beats as one with yours.  I never want anyone but you, my true, strong, unconditional beloved.  Froggy my heart and all I have will always want to be with and love you.  You are my dream I have dreamed of since a little girl.  That man who rescues you from all bad.   Your my froggy I kissed and turned into a prince (ha ha ha)

 

I love you so much; I will always be here with you for you.  Love me.

written 13 years ago

 

This was my 22 year old self writing a letter to my husband passed after just moving into our apartment together for the first time.  Froggy yes that is a word I sometimes called him, for the reason of kissing a frog and finding your prince charming.  Just recently it has been two years since he has passed and thought of the impact of this letter that it had on me on the day I found it going through things, to see he kept this for so long made me smile to know it definitely stayed with his heart.

 

 

 

As I looked down at his resting place remembering memories, remembering how in the note I said “I could never live without him” I realised here I am without him, yet still breathing, still smiling, some days maybe hard yet here I was striving through my days, opening doors to things never thought of, making a life full of abundance, joy, dream catching, unconditional love.  I knew why it was this way, why I was still thriving, it was because I knew our love never left to go anywhere, our place we share of love never left.  I understood that in this life I am living he is not seen but felt, he is all around me in the empty space I breathe, he is all around me being my guidance, my strength, my guardian, where he is now there are things that are of essence he can reach that could not here on earth. 

 

On this day it was felt just as it did the day I lost him, every year it is felt the exact same way, yet things are done differently as you go along, things are celebrated to their life, the feeling of that loss will never feel any different than it did the day you lost them, it’s the in between of it all you yourself finds a place for that pain, in that space you find more and more of the strength you carry in each, every moment of times of significances to you along with your loved ones passed.  You understand “yes the pains of the important dates are with you, yet it doesn’t ever interfere with that special place you hold your unconditional love you share.  It’s in the tears that fall that soon remind you it is not tears where you share your love.   Sometimes you can even find yourself smiling in knowing that the love you share is brighter than pain that tries to invade that space.  On this day I played his favorite songs, remembered his smile, the joy the music brought  to his face, I remembered us, I remembered the love that was the force field to all pain, negativity, darkness that lingered trying to invade.

 

 

 

 

In it all in all actuality you find two very special places in you, the place where you share your unconditional love, the place where you store as well as feel the pain.  In both areas never do they collide.  Pain tries to invade that sacred place but diminishes in time as fast as it tried to creep in.  Try to understand that when you miss them that they are with you, although you miss their presence just know it is their soul you are connected to.

Each anniversary, special moment, holiday, it is always going to feel like just yesterday you lost them but know in that place you share your unconditional love is where the magic happens.  Yes the hardest of it all is missing their presence, their smile, their being with you, yet through that all the most of importance is their soul that always hugs your hurt, lights up your world, brightens your light. 

It is hard to not feel that pain yet that pain never really lasts long due to the special place of love you have within you for your loved one passed, soon after the pain subsides to let you know “yes, yes it is our love that takes on that battle to win each and every time.  In our pain it is known to be seen the most of magical things if you allow your whole being find your light, love, happiness in the place you lost it.  Don’t mistake the places you hold in you of your sacred place of love with where you hold the place of pain.

 

 

A poem I found that spoke to my heart deeply

 

Hugs From Heaven

by Anonymous

When you feel a gentle breeze
Caress you when you sigh
It's a hug sent from Heaven
From a loved one way up high

If a soft and tender raindrop
... Lands upon your nose
They've added a small kiss
As frail as a rose

If a song you hear fills you
With a feeling of sweet love
It's a hug sent from Heaven
From someone special up above

If you awaken in the morning
To a bluebird's chirping song
It's music sent from Heaven
To cheer you all day long

If tiny little snowflakes
Land upon your face
It's a hug sent from Heaven
Trimmed with Angel lace

So keep the joy in your heart
If you're lonely my dear friend
Hugs that are sent from Heaven
A broken heart will mend

 

 

 

On this day of two years I remember how it was just the same on the one year mark, I remembered how my heart shattered on the day I lost my husband passed the memories never faded still crystal clear as the day it happened.  Although each year the space where I store my pain stays there, I take my deep breath, look around grab in that pain the new piece of strength as well as knowledge, move forward to reaching into to the sacred place where we share our love to hold on to that spot.  I stand in my light, I know beside me my light shines brighter each year shared with my husband passed. 

I remember each year I have always picked myself up each and every time I fell to understand unconditional love is a gift, in it lays magic to your soul, your life, your heart.  Pain yes is unbearable yet switching sides to your sacred place turns off the switch but yet sends to your thoughts what is you needed to gain while you felt that pain allowing you to step further and further ahead stronger and stronger each time.  That day I remembered how it was the day I was blessed with unconditional love, I remembered all of him, I remembered how bright his soul was, how it was his soul that what was truly who he was, who he is.

Each significant factor in our life together I remember to take those moments to live them out still, even if just me I know not far from it all my husband passed smiles knowing I still celebrate things he loved doing here on earth.  Through the love I feel the warmth in me; I feel my heart beat in tune with his.  Empty space is not empty space; it is your loved ones passed all around in that empty space we cannot see.  Breathe in that empty space and smile.

 

 

 

NOTE TO ALL:  Find it in you to know the difference between the spaces we keep our sacred love and where we keep the pain, known in your heart that the pain always will give to you a piece of strength as well as knowledge each time you feel it, the pain can never take up that sacred place of unconditional love where your loved ones lay in you.  It's through it all your light flickers to become one with the love you share.  Their light continues on in you shinning to the very ends of the world, letting all know unconditional love lies within you.

 

 

 

 

 

 



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This was a huge Aha for me



When I first lost my husband I ran across this article and right as I was reading it the lights came on inside me, right away I felt all of me feel him and his presence.   From that day forward I did my best to understand that for him to feel my pain would leave him stuck unable to grow where ever he was, I wanted him to be the best at all he did where he was, so all of me each day focused on him being the greatest at all he did where he was, all of me felt that in the pain we lose the signs the great signs all around so I fought hard to rise above the pain and just feel our love.  Let the unconditional love open your heart to see the things you can't while you let the pain consume you.  Find that love that you share to hold on to it and never let the pain take up that space where only your love needs to be.

This is to offer guidance, support and knowledge to those who have lost a dear one or know someone who has lost a dear one.

How does one deal with sorrow?

On Earth, everyone has to face sorrow at some time or another. It is almost too much to bear the loss of a loved one, but somehow you HAVE to face this tough time and live this life of yours on Earth in the best possible manner. What you need is consolation, courage and love from people around you. In those times you have to make up your mind to gather strength and comfort by helping someone else in their grief, sickness or other problem. Do something in any way and overcome your sorrow.

 

Man is a soul

You need to understand a basic truth - your soul is eternal, imperishable, undying, and indestructible, your physical body on the other hand is temporary, perishable and subject to decay. Your soul is invisible within your body and matures through experiences over many lifetimes. The soul is the real YOU.

 

 

 

Earth is merely the soul’s temporary school. The spirit world is your TRUE home

The soul matures over many lifetimes. If you can accept the fact that there is life after death, then death becomes not the dreaded end of life, but a moment of change when you shrug off your Earthly body and emerge as a spirit being to a life in the spirit world.

 

Death is simply a means of returning to your true home - the Spirit World. It is like finally graduating from school after undergoing many difficult exams and returning home. During life on Earth you go through various problems, pain, difficulties, miseries, etc. Without these experiences the soul cannot mature. The physical body is like a car which takes you from one experience to another. When death comes, your physical body, which has fulfilled its purpose, is severed from your spirit body, and your soul goes on as part of its eternal pilgrimage. The (good) soul who has suffered in his worldly life finds himself in a beautiful place filled with light and happiness like he has never experienced on Earth.

 

You are not alone

Remember also that your departed dear one is with you, you are not alone. The one who you love and who loves you has left you physically but not spiritually. He can see you and hear you even though you cannot see him. With death, he has just discarded his physical body as you would discard an old coat. Your loved one has only travelled to a new land where he will wait for you. You should also not assume that the departed loved one has lost more than he has gained.

 

To grieve is not an expression of love

It is not wrong to love and miss your loved ones, but it is wrong to keep mourning and grieving for them forever. It is natural that a wound will bleed for sometime but after a while it will stop bleeding and will heal. You have to understand that grieving indefinitely is wrong for the reasons mentioned below:

 

1. Grief is actually quite SELFISH. When you grieve constantly you make your departed loved ones in the Spirit World miserable to see you so unhappy. In fact, grief creates a barrier and makes it more difficult for them to get close to you and help you. By mourning you retard the growth of the departed soul as you are not allowing them to do their work. They will be worried about you and will be unable to concentrate on doing their work in the spirit world.

 

2. Grief is self-centred. Your grief and tears of mourning are only shed for yourself. You mourn as you wonder how you will manage by yourself. What YOU will do without them or who will look after and provide for you or help YOU now that the loved one is no more.

 

 

3. Grief causes negativity. Grieving changes your state of mind from positive to negative. This negativity within causes you ill health and will lead to various diseases.

 

4. Grief can result from lack of knowledge: Some believe that your departed loved one will be happy if you grieve for them. You feel guilty if they don’t grieve for your departed loved one – you feel that you are being disloyal. This is ignorance - a wrong understanding. Your departed love one wants you to remember them and talk to them and cherish the happy memories of all the joyful moments that you have shared together, but they NEVER want you to grieve for them and become negative, guilt is a very negative emotion.

 

5. Grief clouds your mind. You are unable to see what is right and what is wrong as your mind is not clear and positive. Thus your judgement becomes weak.

 

6. Grief makes you forget your duty. When you grieve you are focused on your own feelings, and you forget to even do your duty to your loved ones who are still on Earth. In your own gloom you will make the lives of others gloomy.

 

7. Grief is a lack of faith. It means you have no faith, you do not believe that there is life after death and that every soul must eventually return to the spirit world. It means you do not understand the true purpose of life on Earth.

 

 

Tough jobs are for tough people

Just as you face harder and harder tests as you gain knowledge and experience through your years from school to college. Harder tests and training are assigned to those who are competent to successfully execute them. Face your trials courageously. Overcome your grief. Nothing on Earth is really yours. There is always a higher power, which may remove, in one way or another, what you claim as yours, without consulting you.

 

If you wish to help your loved ones then pray for them, as your love and prayers will aid their progress. Try to forget your own misery by giving happiness to others.

 

1. Light a candle in someone Else's dark hour. Remember that your departed loved ones are by your side helping you in all the good work that you do. The time that is wasted in your soul's development can never be regained and there is so much that needs to be done. Do good always and try not to leave any good work undone.

 

2. Think wisely before you help others. You should not cause them further pain instead of consoling them. When people are miserable they may insult you or try to avoid you. Be tactful, understanding and loving.

 

3. You must not give of yourself to another so completely that you are drained of strength, balance and the power of decision making. Nor must you support those who are shirking their own tasks or refusing to exert themselves for others.

 

4. You have to SHARE their miseries and your own. Upon sharing you will see that half of your misery and theirs will have disappeared. Make the best of the worst.

 

5. You must also try and get back into your normal day-to-day activities.

 

6. You will experience immense joy when you find that you are ready to sacrifice even a little of yourself for others. To live for one’s self is to destroy one’s self.

 

7. Show courage in meeting and enduring your trials. Promise yourself to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.

 

 

8. PRAY. Prayer when rightly understood and wisely directed can be of invaluable assistance to the dead. Sincere, loving and selfless prayer is to them a source of strength, relief and happiness.

 

 

Nothing can separate you from your loved ones. By death you lose not your loved ones but the power to see and hear them. Ties of true affection are eternal and when you sleep you reunite with many of your loved ones in the Spirit World.

 

 

Begin today to live your life with such perfection that the inspiration you provide will set others on the same marvellously dedicated course that you follow.

 

 

If you feel miserable go out and do something for someone else!

 

NOTE TO ALL:  It is so very hard to ignore that pain but if you find that special place of loved shared by you and your loved one passed the pain has no longer no more room to fit in that space, it is hard yes, that love will give you all the strength you need to find that space of love shared by you both each time you feel the pain unbearable.

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Lifes A Quote

This blog I decided to dedicate to all quotes that spoke to my heart going through this life of grieving, dreaming, finding you again. Sometimes it is in the very little you seek the strength

Through all that has been happening I found that through little messages like quotes that it is as though it's the whisper in you giving you it through words in case you can not hear that whisper. Quotes to me speak to you, they speak the truth, they show you things in ways never thought of before. In this blog are all quotes I adore and spoke out loud to me, yet short but sweet to the point. Each quote I share will have a description to it of the thoughts it carried with me, my thoughts to what it was I seen in the strong words. Remember its the littlest things that could very well be a sign to you and the life you are building to.



To find the strength in you to get through the things in your life you must find your strength, you must believe it is there that nothing is impossible if you know in you lays strength beyond what you are capable of ever knowing. Search in you deep to find that source, this life is full of pain yet in it is pieces of your strength each time you go through it.



In your time of grief it is most important to be with those that truly love you no matter how much you just want to be alone.



Angels are all around us surrounding us each day with love, our loved ones passed will forever be with us, through them we will find our way through all of our life, not seen they walk beside us every day each step we take. Angels are always around waiting to give us love, strength, guidance. Our hearts will forever be the love of the angels with us, they seek us in all the things we may do in life watching to make sure we stay on the path we were meant to be on.



just because we cant see them doesn't mean their not there ♥



LOOK UP ♥



Strength is always in you sometimes you just have to find it, no matter how far away it just be you, you always have it in you to go deep within and find the strength you need in the moments you face.



Truly look at life with your eyes wide open to all the blessings,



Cherish the memories through every hard day that comes your way through the treasured memories you find your smile leaving the pain no space to stay

Once your hearts been touched with true love it never leaves you

Forever in our hearts ♥



Find it in your heart to find comfort that suits your heart♥



So true its the greatest of strength you get from memories you share that lift u higher above all the pain from the small to the big find your greatest moments to turn back on your light when the darkness lurks over you



keep them in your heart like the burning flame of a candle their love will burn strong always in your heart



Believe and doors that once were closed will be forever opening



Never give up on you or your dreams



Through it all we are all here for different purposes we are all different people don't let no one change who you are be you and love every bit of it



Turn on your own light ♥



Love this something to make you all smile and giggle



Never deny the loss you feel no matter what people say we will always feel that loss because of the true love we have been blessed with always remember its not about time its about love that never goes anywhere except lives on in us ♥



Although not seen through our joy and happiness is when we know for sure they never did go anywhere just unseen



When the pain in your heart doesn't ease up pay attention to your heart and understand its telling you the love you carry will always be there but the strength of that love will always get you through the things you face from small to big True love is a gift in that love lays a power stronger and magical than seen



Expect miracles because true love has blessed your life



Once your hearts been touched with true love it never leaves you



Dreams are ours for the taking never give up on yours



Don't ever let any one tell you how long or its been long enough grieving, we all grieve in our own way its nothing to do with time grief is something that will forever stay in our hearts because of the love we forever will keep there. In our own time we find ways to ease our heartache yet will always carry their love, so from time to time we always will shed tears to the great love no longer to be seen but forever felt



YOU are the star of your life, your show, you say how everything is set out for you, no one can take the leading role from you unless you let them. Do not ever feel that you can not help those that grieve, or turn away simply due to not knowing what to say, it is in the silence that as well as being there the grieving know you care, your love along with being there lifts our hearts above the pain we feel trapped in. No matter how uncomfortable face that feeling to fight it, to be there for those you care. To those that grieve it is in us as well to reach out to people in need no matter how hard our pain is, it is through the loving that we feel the pain less, by helping others we feel nothing but love as well as joy. I say to all that grieve PRAY, it seems so simple yet it is powerful, it will lift your heart far and above all the pain. To all grieving hearts know in your heart in time you will see many come, many go, yet you will see the most important full of love that never left. Do not let your heart feel for the ones that left, yet only for the ones that have stayed. Know in your heart that every second gone by will lead to a day you have made it through your pain. Don't dwell on the negative when so much positive surrounds you in every tear that falls. In your heart is a gift, your love is the truest of gift that could ever be. Your loved ones passed love is what carries through your love, their lessons to us is what keeps them with us forever.



When its storming dance in the rain and embrace the strength you hold inside you and look up never forget to look up ♥ storms never last forever after the storm the sun always shines and rainbows appear



So much sympathy and compassion is needed to those that grieve not enough of it is around for the gentle hearts in their time of need I'm grateful to be able to touch as many hearts out there that grieve the world needs to wake up and have a bigger heart to those that grieve and understand there is no time limit on a heartache trying to heal



Remember their love remember how they made u feel do all things they loved doing to celebrate their life this holiday its all about their love for you and how amazing they made you and your life feel perhaps some tears may fall but don't let it control the power of your love and blessings they were to your life smile in knowing they may not be seen but through love will always be felt



From the hardest to greatest of things in your life it is because of it all your the best possible you right now and still building to be greater you than how you are now, those dealt the hardest of things become the strongest fullest of people, through it in the pain lays your blessings it defines the truest of all you are and can be. Regret and pain are a disguise gifted to you to make you become the whole person you need be



Never ever be afraid to ask for help or admit it no matter what you are never alone



Use the wisdom you carry to help others in their times of pain turn your pain into wisdom so that others can learn from you in times of despair find it in you to turn all your struggles into wisdom so others to can see they can do it just the same



Your time, your heart, your life, don't let others ever tell you when or how you should be feeling, grief is something you will always carry with you because your heart remembers the love you were blessed with



The love is what casts the pain away that creeps up on you vastly feel that love you shared and the pain runs away as fast as it came always remember what it was your loved ones passed made you feel and that alone diminishes the pain



Love never ever leaves you, unconditional love is a gift forever



Cherish the memories through every hard day that comes your way through the treasured memories you find your smile leaving the pain no space to stay


If you cant see that light make your own, turn on your own light through your love and the love of your loved ones passed that lay with your love in your heart



Use all of your pain as stepping stones lifting you higher every time build your life up and reach for the stars don't give in to the pain in that pain lays your strength building you higher through it each time you struggle so keep building towards the stars and help others around build up with you, struggles and pain are your lessons to become whole, to become all you can be



Be thankful for the little to biggest of things, be thankful for what you have now not what you want and the rest will follow



Second chances are for everyone if this day is a hard one know that its not every day you will feel like this,br>


Our hearts, our world, our soul, our home has a piece of heaven in it, in us



Sorrow can break you to the point where your heart fully opens to see life as pure as a child sees, in that moment you begin on a path that no words can ever describe


Your heart will always feel the loss and how ever long it feels it it is ok don't let others make you feel that its not normal losing someone will forever be felt in your heart of the love that is lost so "what others think of you is none of your business" ~Deepak Chopra



Your dreams never leave you no matter how long they are always there waiting for you to make them your reality



Your strength comes from the pain you feel, in the pain is where you find lessons to who you are and bits of your strength each time you fight the battle of pain to ignore that is to ignore who you are and what your life blessings are trying to whisper to you



Find your happy thought and use that every time you feel the darkness moving in



Look up and BELIEVE ♥



Always keep getting back up even if it takes a little longer as long as you get back up is what matters most



Dont let others determine the strength of who you are or wait for the approval of others to reach for your dreams its you and only you that conquers the dreams you hold within



Don't let fear convince you that its there to stay and keep you from your excellence that you are look it in the eyes to let it know your not convinced or letting it control take a deep breath and jump for your dreams in life



The length of time it takes to get back up don't matter as long as you eventually do each time, see the world from laying down and enjoy it



Always stay in the now its not about an hour from now a day a month its about now the moments that are happening all around you in this very moment



Find your purpose and what beats in rhythm with your heart and your pain slowly evaporates into thin air your smile love hope and dreams soon follow



Grief opens the windows to our heart to see the world in all its pureness just as we did as a child the way we all should see it rising above the pain is a breaking point to the pain because once you see life in all of its pureness the dreams you once had come back to your heart and you see they are doable that the love you radiate casts out to the world to touch others hearts that grieve and to reach others in their times of despair to help others in trying times is to let go of yours in your times of pain



Use the magic that is you out into the world to help others in their times of needs use the wisdom you carry right now in your pain to lift others through the same that you go through its in the helping our pain lifts to relieve our hearts more and more we seek others in pain to help while we are building to anew their are others that are to, look around and build together be the help that others may need Magic happens when your heart is full of love and put out into the universe

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