This is a place for all broken grieving hearts to come, its my safe haven and I share this with all of you to be your safe haven. I am hoping through my journey of grieving as well as my real life experiences through grieving I can help all through their darkest hours, to ease the pain a little less, to maybe just give an ear to listen because sometimes that's all we need.


I am willing to bare all to each and everyone who comes to this blog. I want no one to be shy of anything. I want anyone to ask question's, tell their stories with pride. No one will judge you, or think you are different. We are all here going through the same thing GRIEVING. This is my safe haven, your safe haven. The place to heal, to find your smile again. Through this all I am on a journey to writing a book as well "The Grieving Path To Joy".

Jun 26, 2013

Evil vs Good

 
 

So as I type this it is very hard for me to keep balanced, after some issues that have happened that proved truly to my whole being that out there is still some truly evil, hateful people, that now more than ever is the time to keep your strength allow your light to remain bright to not let the dark dim it in any way.   Last night as we did our show there were horrible of many negative people invading our space, today I still feel the hateful words, the hate that actually invaded our space of love, inspiration and positive.  Sometimes in life we have to realise that not all are of what we are, that out there in this world there is hate, and hate that we hoped we would have thought would never end up at our door step.  We have to understand that in the life we are building full of unconditional love that sometimes that beauty attracts those that have not found their way yet, that in all that they are aware of in their now is hate, that all they know better is the darkness that keeps them hostage, not knowing the light can be their own as well.  Some just don’t want to accept the light, to that I say is scary, that is why it so important to always, always keep your light shining bright no matter what, even after all that has been happening and flowing into my life this little bit of darkness has totally knocked my world a tad off balance.
It is up to us yes carry out into this world with the purpose we carry in our hearts with love yet at the same time we need to understand that not all see it the same way, that to be the opposite they carry the dark.  It is in us all to hold on tight to our unconditional love we carry to know darkness never ever can invade our light for long if we understand our light within shines out far more brighter than the darkness that tries to get in.  Now is our time to embrace all of the light we see of others around to join them in our times of need.  The reflection of all our light combined will one day prove to the darkness that they too can shine, that in that darkness they are a prisoner not even noticing due to living the life they believed was the way it should be.  “Haters always will hate”, may seem like just a saying but oh so true, not something that will ever go away until those find it in themselves to see they to carry the purpose to shine bright out in the world as they see so many that do.  If you are like me than when the times of darkness invade it crashes hard into your world leaving a dent in it for a tad while before you pick yourself back up to know that the light in you is far more stronger than anything negative that wants to keep you down.
After the weeks and weeks of flowing amazingness that was happening in my life I knew it was bound to happen as life is never perfect, that to challenge my all these darkness’s come by from time to time to test the good that you do, that in that darkness it is as though it is there trying to stop what it is that you do, to make you clearly understand what it is you want more deeply, that the picture of what you are wanting is more clearer, so to the darkness it really is a test testing your whole being in knowing if what you are doing is truly what you want to be doing, if your heart is in it all the way no matter what comes your way, no matter how hard the obstacles.  If you know deep within all of you what it is you’re doing is authentically truly you  filled with your purpose and love than you will know when you get knocked down it is just a test testing you to make you see that it is what you really are supposed to be doing.  These are the moments of bitter sweetness because in the darkness you find your heart letting you know that no matter how hard the blows get that you are still willing to stand your ground.  Last night was that night for me, today is the day I picked myself up to understand I am exactly where I choose to be and to be headed.  My dreams are for me to hold onto, to not give up, to not stay down for too long, to know that the force of the darkness that sees the brightness in me is discouraged to see that love is being done in this world, that darkness never ever wants to see love, it is so use to the darkness that the light is not supposed to be there, that the light is something not of their world. 
 

I do know that as these people with such negativity come into your space that it makes you doubt you, it makes you want to give up, if you give your heart some time it will rise above that feeling to let you know that you are stronger than that, that it is not you being on the wrong path it is them not knowing where they even belong in this world, that just because someone tries to bring you down does not mean what you are doing is wrong, that what you are doing can never be achieved.  It means that what you are doing is so powerful others don’t want to see it happen, that in them they feel so dark that they feel for themselves to pick on those that are changing this world for the better, that we choose to shine in our light and believe in what we do, to know that dreams can happen if you believe In all of you to know one day it will be.  Those in darkness are as though they see nothing but black, they see your light to see it is what they wished they could not even know it is what can be for them.   
Just when you feel your truly there a lesson that is much needed knocks you down helping you to see that your path your taking cannot be perfect, that what it is you are doing is truly what your heart is telling you to do.  Within two weeks I have had a TV show for grieving approved to be aired here in Windsor, Ontario, I had our T&K OWN Talk show become a featured show since it was so popular, I have had a blog VividLife agree to post a blog post from me that was always a dream I have wanted to do, all of these dreams were coming to life, so fast, so quick, it was so hard to take it all in, in that week I was on my way to Chicago to LifeClass to meet Oprah so everything around me was so full of my dreams in reality I knew deep down I’d get that lesson, the lesson that you can have your dreams just not all at once, that others in their darkness see that light you radiate so brightly to lurk in your space trying to keep you away from it all, to test you, to see if the strength in you is there strong enough to keep moving forward.   I do know deep In all of me that dreams that I bare are there just little by little they can become my reality, that through it the darkness will always try to prevail, to always know dream a bigger dream, that the love you hold in you is stronger than anything that wants to keep you from all you see coming true.
So when negative tries to invade your space leaving you feel helpless, doubtful, look in your heart to know that what it is that you are doing is what all of you wants to be doing, that it is the negative that will always be around to doubt you and your dreams in spite of not having their own dreams.  We have to understand as much as we don’t like to that there is hate in this world, that it does exist, but through it you will rise from it each and every time you believe in all of you who you are.  So when negative comes knocking don’t let it stay, let it know what it is selling you aren’t buying.  That no matter how hard the climb to all of what you want in life it will be, it will be if you learn to let that darkness bounce off your light, that even sometimes in that darkness you can help to turn on the light.
 
 
people telling you that it is time you should be over it, to the people who feel the need to always tell you how you should be feeling it is all due to the reflection of how they feel about themselves lashing out towards you to make themselves feel better.  Keep your heart full of love, full of the love of your loved ones past and that will pick you up while you cannot walk on your own.  Dreams may be simple to you in your grieving journey but in the light you shine are all around you to be done.  In the beginning for me a dream to me was to sleep through the night, then as you keep up the strength through the path you walk those dreams become bigger and bigger the more you see them coming true the more you see it is so, that no matter what you dream it is possible to be one day.
The people that watch around you seeing you build your life up may not be happy to see that, they may try to break you but nothing is breakable if you don’t let it be.   Try your hardest to help them yet if the help is not taken know in your heart you did the best that you could and it is not because of you they chose not to rise with you.  Be proud of what you do, what you accomplish doesn’t let that deteriorate due to the pain of others that do not know any better right now in their life.   Do not give up what it is you are meant to do because others see it is not right, they see it is not right due to wanting to be able to believe in themselves as you do but do not know how to in the moment they are in.  The people left in the darkness some may choose to stay others may just not know what to do at that time of their life to get out and lash out to those that found the way.  The impact of grief alone is hard to carry alone the darkness that sees the light in you turning on slowly, your loved ones passed will lift you above that all in the belief you have in all of your being.
In the pain that happens in your life is a lesson touched upon you to reach out to all in need of help through that exact pain you feel.  Seeking out to those in need is where you truly start to find the dreams in you, is where your pain becomes less, in that pain is where your magic appears.  I always say “it’s in the quiet where you know your success is being made”, it is the quiet you see around you why it is so quiet.  The quiet is where the whispers are loud, letting you know where you are is exactly where you’re supposed to be.  Sometimes the noise comes around but in your heart is where it will always find ways to reach your whole being to let you know.

 

The impossible you feel is not there, that is the barriers you put on yourself due to fear and the unknown.  Stepping out to all of what is unknown is where you will find you, on the day I went to Chicago absolutely everything was unknown, not one thing that was happening around me was something I knew would be.  In the unexpected is where it is the scariest but also once the unexpected becomes expected is where you truly see how far you have gone, that in those bits and pieces you truly start to see your light shine a little brighter, the more you step out, the more you are willing to step out no matter how scary it may be to you.  Although in your failures sometime on the path you walk is not truly a failure yet a way of telling you there is another way to get there.
While you walk this path people along the way may be seeing something that to them is not right, that to them it is what they should be doing but don’t see why it isn’t happening for them leading them to lash out to you to try and weaken you, to try to distract you, so that you never feel you can get to where it is you want to be.  It’s sad to know that others hold on to such hateful things yet all you can do is love even if not accepted that love will bring you through it stronger and taller leaving a trail behind you showing all no matter what keep getting up if it is truly what you are wanting in life.  Do not close your heart to the world know in it that this is a lesson that hate sometimes crosses your path to teach your heart a lesson, proving to you even more the determination in you is not to be broken.  Believe with all of you; see with all of you each and everything that you want to be in your life.  See yourself there to keep on to that vision to know one day it is where you will be.
To the darkness of hate that lurks from time to time is no match for the love you carry within combined with the vision and belief you know in all of you.   I say to the darkness one day they too will find their light to turn on, although sometimes the darkness stays dark never wanting to find that light.  Each and every time it knocks you down it is not telling you to give up, it does not mean you’re not where you’re supposed to be or where you are to be headed it is just a moment of weakness that in time will fade to nothing with all the strength and love you carry in you.  Don’t doubt, don’t get yourself down, don’t give up, don’t feel you are being stopped just take your time, get up move forward and keep all of what you believe alive.  It is not what you do is why others choose to cut you down, it is not that what you do is wrong it is others that know no better that they too can build up to the life they have always seen.
 
 
NOTE TO ALL:  Often your tasks will be many, And more than you think you can do. Often the road will be rugged And the hills insurmountable, too. But always remember, The hills ahead Are never as steep as they seem, And with Faith in your heart Start upward And climb 'til you reach your dream. For nothing in life that is worthy Is ever too hard to achieve If you have the courage to try it, And you have the faith to believe. For faith is a force that is greater Than knowledge or power or skill, And many defeats turn to triumph If you trust in God's wisdom and will. For faith is a mover of mountains, There's nothing that God cannot do, So, start out today with faith in your heart, And climb 'til your dream comes true!
 
Synposis: If you knew all the troubles that lay ahead in your journey towards the achievement of your goals, you'd probably never begin, or have serious second thoughts. In a way, nature protects us from knowing this, so that we take the first step. Or else, if there were no one courageous like you, where would the world be? How would the world progress? We would have no civilization, if everyone was like the majority who simply kept their heads down and took the path of least resistance. So, the few of us, we set out in naivet'e with hopes, dreams and lots of enthusiasm. We soon realize that in the course of the journey, there are demons, dark nights, mysterious obstacles, and loads of disappointments and failures.
 
However, these are only the test of our faith and grit. They are meant to test the intensity of our desire. To see how badly we want our goal. Success always has a price. If we keep marching confidently in the direction of our dreams, all these tumultous waves will subside. If we pay the price of success, if we perservere through all those dark hours, they will all fade away to let the rays of dawn and we will reach our goal, unharmed, safe and happy. Adversity never comes to hurt us. It leaves us unscathed, unharmed. In fact, it leaves us much stronger and abler. It comes to make us stronger and deserving of our goal. So, climb! Climb despite all the insurmountable obstacles, keep climbing towards your goal. You'll get there.
 
Helen Steiner Rice
 
 
 
Oprah with me in Chicago at Harpo for LifeClass a dream others thought was just that nothing but a dream, a dream others laughed at me for telling me "that will never happen, do you know how hard it is to meet oprah?"  Yet keeping my belief and knowing in my heart strong that day has happened, not giving in to the darkness, the doubt, the fear.   Each and all of us can be, do whatever it is in our heart it is wanting to do.   You just have to keep strong, climb high and DREAMBIG. 
 
DREAMING BIGGER I have now put a picture of SuperSoulSunday on my vision board because one day in my heart that is where I will sit to speak to everyone that grieves, to show all the love I have in me to change how those shun upon those that grieve, to also let all that grieve know the impossible they see only means im possible.
 
 
 


2 comments:

  1. THX for sharing. You have a GIFT expressing your feelings! About how negativity is trying to creep up but not only will you not allow it, you also stay a positive counter force. That is how you create inspiration. Kudos :))

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  2. Thank you so much times can be hard but we all have it in us to keep the positive over the negative im very thankful u enjoyed inspiration is what i always wanted to give startin this blog so glad u were here n thsnk u so much again

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