Needing Help is Brave an Strong

When your fighting your biggest of battles in life you feel you go to another side where you see no one, hear no one, and no one sees you or hears you.

There is a nothing but complete and utter black once you have lost who you are, once you no longer can see the light in and out of you, sometimes it takes so long to tell yourself over and over again that tomorrow is another day, that this way I am feeling is not permanent, that if I cannot make it on my own I need to stand strong for myself and get and admit I need help.  So many around by appearance you would never tell are suffering inside so badly that the world seems it has turned to total darkness, as if walking blind through your days and nights.  

This is also why so many feel the need to keep it in, try to put on a smile, showing others they are ok, due to wanting to get through on their own.  When you look to another as you pass them by do you see what they are on the inside?, can you see the pain?, saying hello with a smile just might save someone's life.  This I learned not so long ago.

That is just it so many in pain are passed by so quickly, to think that in their time they will be better, that they can do it, that the pain and suffering will make them stronger, help them grow, I see it as that, however when a person is so far gone under water touching rock bottom that light to knowing you can make it is not there, your mind is in complete dark that no thoughts reach you.  

Many believe that Depression/Anxiety/Panic Attacks/, are all something a person can on their own over come, that it is looked at as a weakness by some, the one suffering feels so consumed of embarrassing thoughts of what others believe that they continue to try to fight on their own not wanting to admit what they battle in fear of what society has made so many believe.

I see this because being at rock bottom I have seen the judgement of so many, telling you "you can do this, this is all in your head, you are strong", however how true it may be there are situations that are truly like a disease and like a disease it needs to be treated.  No one can understand it fully if they themselves have not felt it, lived it, been through it.  Being truly clinically depressed like any other disease it is a disease itself, not something to over look, judge or criticize.  It is because of so many nay Sayers people suffering stay in the dark, turn their back on life and take their life in their own hands.

If it is a rising problem today then it is not something to be looked to as a person's problem to deal with on their own, or to be over looked and back turned on.  Yes some can build back up to their light, to the light, yes you can tell yourself positive things, believe in positive things to lighten the pain, to make it back to the light of who you are. 

There will be falling down, going in circles, but feeling you need to reach out for help is not to ever feel you are weak, nor embarrassed.  I am glad to see so many addressing depression, yet still their is so much as we as a person and world need to do to strengthen the matter of depression and to shine a light to those who are in the dark to know they are loved, they are not weak, they are not trapped, they are not less than a person, their life is meaningful, that they are not different by what they are suffering.

I remember the day I needed to admit to myself I cannot do it on my own no more, I know I am not the me I use to be, it was so hard to admit that it took a year to finally feel strong enough to reach out and understand it was ok to ask for help and get help that I needed, that asking for help was the bravest, strongest thing you could ever do in life, not the weakest, embarrassing thing others may have seen it to be, it does not matter what others see all that matters is what your own eyes and heart see and know.  

That's the problem so many look for others consent and how they feel that they get caught up in knowing others do not make who they are as a person, it is you that makes you and what others see, say is none of your business.  Others do not define who you are, it is you and you alone through your eyes is all that matters, it is your life and how you see it and do it is all you will ever need to know.  I am truly saddened today to see such a precious gem in this world that made so many laugh, that shined so bright, that was very well known no longer here, to look at the laughter and smiles of this man like all we pass by you can never know truly what battle is happening to so many on the inside.  

When you have tried and tried to find you again but seem to not be able to get your smile back, to get out of darkness and feel in your heart something is not right, then it is your time to know that you are strong and you are brave to take the step forward to the light and say loud "I need help" and say it proud, no one is perfect, life is not perfect, we are not what others feel or say who we are, we are human and all have obstacles to deal with whether from easy to the hardest, this is our life and lets be the best person we can be no matter what lays in our way, there is always a way out of dark just say the words and reach for the light of another hand to pull you up in your most trying time of need.  Your dream of who you want to be, to become, to do, is not ever dulled by the pain and suffering you can not shake on your own.

Depression and Suicide

Depression is involved in more than two-thirds of the 30,000 suicides that occur in the United States every year. For every two homicides, there are three suicides. "Elderly men may feel especially hopeless when their bodies break down with illness because it can destroy their sense of masculinity," says Lieberman. That may be why the highest suicide rate among Americans is in white men who are 85 or older, many of whom may have a depressive illness.

So what do all these depression statistics tell us about Americans with depression? Perhaps the key take-away is that depression is a powerful condition affecting many. If you have symptoms of depression, you are not alone and help is available. The earlier you start treatment, the more likely you are to get a handle on the condition. The best defense against depression may very well be knowledge and awareness.

http://www.everydayhealth.com/health-report/major-depression/depression-statistics.aspx

Be the light for everyone you know, see, walk past, just let them know they are seen and they matter, for being put here and living another day is the answer to all you need to know, you matter, you are special, you have a gift and purpose to be here today, what ever it may be means nothing of what others may see or feel about you and your purpose, you are the one to live your life and become who you truly believe to be.  In hopes that all hearts in pain and suffering find the light and no longer suffer and feel alone no more, all life is precious and should be treated as a precious gift shinning bright no matter how you may feel on the inside.  I want everyone to know the gem that they are and use that to reach out to anyone that they can.

I pray for the peace of mind of everyone who feel they cannot ask for help to be blessed with love to know they CAN ask for help and feel proud and strong that they do.  Mask the negativity of those that may fear others to get help and turn their hearts into light and shut off the negativity of others they give off.

P.S I today suffer from anxiety but know that it does not define me and my purpose and dreams in life, that the day I reached for a hand was the day I shined even brighter for myself and for others to see that they to can do the same with out feeling any less than what they are, or as though their life is any less important by others who do not suffer with what you do.  That you are strong, that you have gotten back up, that all your dreams, purpose and love never dulls or is defined by what so many look to as a weakness in character, you are not what others believe you are, and most definitely not your business what others say or do about you.  That one quote is a quote I always tell myself "what others say or do about you is none of your business ~Deepak Chopra ~